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the birthday recap.

By the time this post pops up, I’ll have been 25 for a total of 6 days. 6 whole days to sit and reflect about just how awesome my birthday weekend was. I mean, in the back of my head, I sorta kinda knew that this weekend was going to be epic, but man…the entire weekend exceeded all of my expectations.

For starters, my twin Cheekie came all the way down from Chicago for me! And for my birthday! I knew she was coming, but it wasn’t real to me until I picked her up from BWI and got the weekend started. Friday night brought my birthday dinner at Bridges Restaurant across the Bay Bridge. Now, the weather had turned seasonably cold, so I was a little sad that the ambience wouldn’t be just the way I wanted it to, but I knew I would still have a good time. Thirteen of my closest friends graced me with their presence at the restaurant, and we showed up and showed out.  One of my best guy friends, B, came all the way down from Pittsburgh for my birthday, which made me feel completely awesome. For once in my life, I put on a dress, and everybody complimented me on it. Way to make the birthday girl feel special, huh? The food at Bridges is absolutely amazing, there was live reggae, and apparently my group of friends is irresistible because there were 2 ladies and 1 guy who would not stop coming to the table to get us to dance. I mean, I couldn’t even finish my food in peace! There was so much shade throwing and epic side eyes were given from my table, which only made the night that much better.

Then we get to Saturday…my actual birthday. I was SO EXCITED when the clock hit midnight, and it was extra hard for me to fall asleep. After an hour and a half of trying (and a stint on Twitter and a conversation with my roommate), I finally did. When I woke up the next morning, I took some time to type my homework out (-_-), and Cheekie and I lounged around most of the morning and early afternoon. We were waiting on Max and BP to land in DC from New York, where they were to celebrate Max’s birthday the night before. For some reason, it was taking them an extra long time for them and Shonnerz to get to my house, but they finally made it! I squealed when I opened the front door to my apartment and saw Max, BP, and Shon…but who else was standing there? My other Canadian ray of sunshine, Keisha Brown! :-D I was SO surprised and SO geeked about it that I just stood there laughing for the longest time. Man…for someone that says they can’t be surprised, they sure did surprise the hell out of me. After that, I took the girls up to Baltimore to the Oyin Handmade store so they could get their goodies for their natural hair, and then we came back and did a quick takeout dinner so we could get ready for the party.

What party? Glad you asked. Panama Jackson of VSB fame and his team throw an all 90s music party called Reminisce on the first Saturday of every month down at Liv on U Street in Washington, DC. From the minute I walked into the door until the minute they cut the lights on at the end of the night, I PARTIED. Within 5 minutes of being there, the biggest shot of vodka I had ever seen in my life was in my hand. Every time I was without a drink, someone was handing me another one. I took a kamikaze shot with PJ. I had at least 2 rum and pineapples, and can’t quite remember what else there was. I dropped it low on almost every guy that was part of my party.  Hell, I dropped it low on my girls, too! (*shrug*) I had on a t-shirt that said “How many licks does it take?” with a picture of the Tootsie Roll owl on it. There were lines of people dancing with each other. I got to shake a lil somethin’ to all the hits of my childhood, which was epic. I was completely ratchet all evening, and I loved every minute of it! My friends were in full support of my ratchetry, and it made for one of the best nights I’ve had in a while. I got sandwiched in between my two best guy friends, got my happy birthday dance from an old friend from high school, and tugged on collars and ends of shirts of fine men. SO MUCH FUN. What I loved most, however, was the outpouring of love people showed for me by showing up. My best friend lied to me all week by saying she couldn’t come down, but ended up coming all the way from Pennsylvania to come to the party! Of course I jumped up and screamed like a little drunk girl, but I was sincerely happy. I had people there from Toronto, Chicago, California, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Virginia, varying parts of Maryland, and DC. All there for me. It seriously meant the world to me to have that many people there to help me celebrate my day.

Though this is one of the longest posts I’ve written, I still can’t adequately find the words to describe just how much fun I had, and just how much the entire weekend meant to me. When it was all over To everyone that told me happy birthday, to everyone that was involved in pulling off the events, to everyone that came to either my dinner, my party, or both, thank you. Your presence definitely made my 25th what it was, and I honestly will never, ever forget this birthday. I can only hope that the rest of 25 is as fabulous as the beginning was…

Until next time, folks…

25 for 25…

Just under 24 hours from now, the clock will strike midnight, and it will be October 1, 2011. Which means, I’ll be 25! It honestly feels like I just turned 21, but…that’s neither here nor there, now is it? Needless to say, I’m more excited about this birthday than I have been for any other birthday in recent memory. Could that be because I have friends coming from California, Chicago, Toronto, Pittsburgh, Hampton, North Carolina, Ohio, and from around the Washington, DC metropolitan area to help me celebrate? Possibly. Could it be because I can finally rent a car without paying that stupid underage fee? Maybe. I think a lot more of it has to do with the fact that I actually feel a shift happening as I approach this birthday. It’s been an interesting journey through the first half of my 20s, and I’m actually eager to see what the last half brings. I’ve learned a hell of a lot about myself, about people, and about life over the last 5 years. What better way to look forward to the next 5 years than to share 25 things I’ve learned before I hit 25…these are in no particular order, but they’re all important to me, so bear with me. Maybe you’ll see something you can relate to in this list…

25. Good food and good music always go hand in hand with each other.

24. Having shoulders to cry on is just as important as having shoulders to stand on.

23. Emotions are powerful tools when controlled and expressed constructively.

22. True beauty radiates from within.

21. Not everyone deserves more than one chance to get it right with you.

20. Heartbreak is but a stepping stone in the journey to happiness – better to experience it now than to deal with it forever.

19. Having good counsel around you proves to be more important the older that you get.

18. The music you listen to is indicative of the way you view life.

17. Laughter is one of the best experiences one can partake in.

16. A cute, short black dress really does make you feel sexy.

15. Perspective is limited by one’s life experiences, morals, and intentions.

14. The company of strong women is more edifying than is given credit for in the mainstream.

13. Your network really is your net worth.

12. Talking about ideas doesn’t really do much – the implementation of ideas is where the true success lies.

11. Dreams really do come true.

10. No matter how small the biological family is, it should never be taken for granted.

9. Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health are all connected, and should all be taken care of with the same diligence and urgency.

8. The smallest moments with people you love will turn out to be the moments you remember the clearest.

7. Refusing to let your circumstances consume you may be the key to keeping a smile on your face.

6. Taking the time to let the people that you love know that you love them may benefit you more than it does them.

5. When people choose to walk out of your life, the best thing to do may be to actually let them walk. Fighting will only prolong the inevitable.

4. Aim to never be the smartest person in your circle.

3. Taking risks may blow up in your face, but it’s better to know than to walk around with the cloud of “what if” over your head.

2. Even when it doesn’t seem like it, your mother really does always have your best interest at heart and truly loves you more than she may know how to express.

1. God really does have it all under control.

I thank God that He is allowing me to get to 25…I hope that the end of my 20s proves to be as interesting, as fun-filled, as pleasantly dramatic, and as educational as the first half of my 20s have been. There were times where I literally thought that some situations would be the end of me, but it has turned out that they have only made me better. To those of you here to celebrate this with me, I appreciate you and love you from the bottom of my heart. Without you, there literally would be no me. You each mean something so special to me, and I’m extremely lucky and grateful to have you in my life.

I’ve come a long way from when I turned 20, and I hope that when I turn 30, I can look back at 25 and say the same.

 

Until next time, folks…